I understand the wrenching of the heart when someone in the health care field steps forward with authority and announces to you that there is something indeed “wrong” with your child. All the fears and uncertainties come flooding in and there seems to be no end which only brings on more fear and uncertainty. Well, I have learned the hard way. Let me give you some facts. The first fact is that Satan is taking this vulnerable situation as an opportunity to attack. But to understand that, Imust digress and begin at the starting point. Let’s begin at the beginning.

God is Soveriegn over all things. Always. When good things happen, God is there in the process. However, when things happen that we interpret as “bad” God has a hand in that as well. Isaiah 45:5-7 states,  (5)”I am the Lord, and there is no other; Besides Me there is no God. I will gird you, though you have not known me. (6) That men may know from the rising to the setting of the sun that there is no other but Me. I am the Lord and there is no other. (7) The one forming Light and creating darkness, causing well being and creating calamity; I am the Lord who does all these things.”

Isaiah is saying that God is in control. Even if you have not known God, God will provide for you if you submit that there is no other God. My father died a horrible death of cancer. I was devastated. But if my father had not died, then I would never have become a nurse and helped (literally) the thousands of people that I have known through my nursing career. Good can come out of the bad.

We should not question God when He delivers to us a specially wrapped child. Nor should any one else. Let no one question the gifts that are given from God. Do not grow bitter at God because your child is special. Likewise, no one should ever question you, the parents, about your child’s condition.

Isaiah 45:9-10 (9) Woe to the one who quarrells with his Maker – an earthern ware vessel among the vessels of the earth! Will the the clay say to the potter, “What are you doing?” or the thing you are making say, “He has no hands?” (10) Woe to him who says to a father, “What are you begetting?” or to a mother, “To what are you giving birth?”

This next passage is one of my favorites. Psalms 127:3 Behold, children are gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.

Our children are a reward! The Bible does not say that our children is a reward unless they are born with special needs in which case they are a punishment. Speaking of punishment. I know many parents often wonder what they did that God would punish them by giving them a special needs child. Well, the Bible is very clear on this issue as well.

John 9:1-3 states, (1) As He passed by, He saw a man blind from birth. (2) And His diciples asked Him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents that he would be born blind? (3) Jesus answered, “It was neither that this man sinned, nor his parents; but it was so that the works of God might be displayed in him.”

Our children were created so that the great works of God may be displayed in them. The man in this passage was healed. As I have shared previously, Megan can sing with the angels. Your child may be the one who moves a heart to become a pastor, a teacher, or an evangelist. We do not know how God will use our children but I believe that He has a divine purpose for each child he creates. I’ve heard parents complain, “If God is so great, then why did He make my child this way?” (Refer to Isaiah 45:9-10) My answer is Romans 11:33 which states, “Oh the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgements and unfathomable His ways.” Basically, the answer is, no one really knows. God has a purpose. Just as God had a Son that He allowed to die that we may escape the penalties of sin. There must be faith.

Psalms 139:14 is perhaps my favorite passage. (14) I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well.

To say that our children are flawed, defective, or that something is “wrong” with them is saying that God does not know what He is doing. God is not prone to accidents. God does not make mistakes. “Ooops!” is not in God’s vocabulary.

Yes, your child may require extra care and provision. Yes, you will experience heart ache dealt by a society that gains pleasure from others pain. Yes, you will be stressed and tested. So was I. Still am at times. But the one verse that brings it all back into perspective for me is as follows and I will write in bold letters for emphasis only

Matthew 18:10 “See that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say unto you that their angels in heaven continually see the face of My Father who is in heaven.“ 

My daughter has her angels. So do your children. Megan claims to see her angel occasionally and I believe her. I believe that your children know that they have angels as well even if they are unable to communicate it to us in a way that we would recognize. I wonder. Lucky them.

God Bless and remember, you and your children are significant to God.

Lonnie Richardson

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